It's Crass Behaviour !

Thank you is an exclamation  used when acknowledging a gift, service or compliment, or  accepting or refusing an offer. It is also an instance or means of expressing thanks: an expression of gratitude but do we use it often, promptly and appropriately?  A friend   shared  the story of how she had constantly  been bothered by a particular  group of guys in her congregation. They had heard from a reliable  source  that she cooked quite well and wondered when she would  cook for them too. They kept pestering  her till she finally  agreed and invited  them over for a meal at her house.

The guys  did show up and enjoyed  the  meal Selina cooked. They praised  her  for  her  excellent  culinary skills and expressed  hopes  of  having  her  cook for  them again before going back to their house. Days on, Selina apparently  waited to hear a simple thank you  from them. When it never  came, she went the extra  mile to report  them to their father since they all  belonged to the same congregation. Their father  was stunned and apologized on behalf of his unruly  children. It was at this point  that she   shared the story with  me. It sounded funny. It  made me laugh   though  I  rather thought  she went   too far by reporting  them to their Dad.

I have  come to realise that some people  just do not know how to say thank you. You can give them the world and they would never say those words. From the high and mighty to  whoever. Yes, you can't  blame  them. It isn't in their DNA. They were not taught to say it, when to say it and how to say it. How then  do you expect  them to say it?  Everyone  loves to be appreciated. Showing people  how appreciative you are of the little  things they do for you, such as stuff we take for granted  because  we have people  doing them for us without  having  to  ask for them. Holding  out the door for us, pulling the chair for us, sending   us birthday  wishes etc. Can you believe  some people  do not even  say thank you  when they receive   birthday  wishes  or other  wishes from  people. Wake up, you! No one owes you wishes on your birthday  or...... It is  just nice to send you  wishes thus people  still do. Stop acting  like  they owe it to you and start acknowledging them. It doesn't  make you unique, it is crass behaviour. Simply crass! It doesn't  matter  your  level of education , status or who you are, it is simply  crass behaviour to refuse to say those words when you have to.

In our daily relationships  with people, be it friends, people we are sweet on, work colleagues, school mates, family etc, we must learn to say thank you if we have  not grasped  this basic lesson yet. When someone  leaves all they have to do just to mourn with you when you are bereaved, learn to say thank you. When someone  compliments you, learn to say thank you. There are a million people  who are more handsome or  probably dress nicely than you do. Stop with the  crass behaviour! People should not be forced to say thank you but people  especially  our younger ones should learn and be taught to say thank you at an early age by their parents. Teach your girlfriend in a nice way to say thank you. What's  so difficult  about saying  thank you?

I have this friend who says thank you a million times (in my opinion, I appreciate  you though).Takes you out on a date and ends up thanking you. Sends you a delivery  and thanks you for accepting  it. They pass by your place to see you for ten minutes   even when they have to travel miles to get home and end up saying thank you. You give them an hour of your  time hanging out which you enjoy too and they end up thanking you. Tell me, if we all behaved this way, won't this world be a  better  place? 

I  have just adapted a stance when it comes to such issues. I can only do my bit. Whether I'm the one giving out or at the receiving  end. My duty is to be polite or offer any assistance  I can. Still play your part. Leave the people  who choose  to display  crass behaviour  to keep being  crass. It costs nothing to say thank you. Don't  forget, not saying  thank you is crass behaviour!

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