IT IS WELL!

Last Friday morning, I woke up happy yet went to bed grieving.  I kept hearing it is well from everyone. We had dreams, we had talked about them just a few weeks ago  and we were looking forward to living them.

I begin this week and I'm hit with another of those. All night I prayed imploring the Holyspirit  to let the morning come with  a miracle. I still remember  Deeidei  Adu's "love that will never let  me go." In that book Deeidei  stated that  sometimes God answers us differently. She had looked forward  to her healing so much yet, was granted healing in the form of death. The last chapter of the book was put on hold awaiting  the healing yet when  it came, it was her sister that  had to finish it up. Deeidei  was set free to go and rest from all that physical  pain and torture  of living  with LAM.

God! You need to be in a different  realm to accept this kind of healing.
You need wisdom to live with  it. So I keep hearing  it is well. But it is not well. It is not well because  a mother cries for her daughter, her brothers crave her affectionate smile and I'm dying to receive a whatsapp message from her. It is not well because  another family cries for their daughter  and her husband  yearns to wake up from this nightmare, her son, to be carried  again  by Mummy.

It is not well because hearts have been broken as well as promises. Dreams have been  shattered  and no goodbyes said. Because  tears have become food for days now and grief  feels the hearts of family, friends and loved ones.

Who will comfort these ones? If not God?  Who will heal these broken hearts and wipe away their tears.

"If I live, I  live for christ
If I die, I die for christ."

It is not well because  these young  women are somewhere wishing to come back  to the hearts they have broken.  Physically  it is not well but we believe  it is well. Yes with Christ it is well because  we know that there shall be no more death nor sorrow, nor crying and the Lord shall wipe away all our tears."

Lord it is hard but we soldier on because  you bring a new day. The sun has stopped  shining for now but we await when it will shine again.

God comfort  those who are hurting  tonight.
It will be well.
It is well!

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Women Have A Choice Too!

 I met one of those old men borgers at the supermarket  where I  had gone to shop after work nights ago.He sounded level headed so I did not refuse to exchange numbers with him after he claimed he  found me quite interesting.

Because I went asking the people at the supermarket   why they were selling a certain brand  of cornflakes and whether it had been certified by the FDA. (Definitely  that's  how they start, they find you intriguing  or intelligent, since beautiful no longer moves us. Next thing they are pushing or trying their  luck to see if they can burst the nuts.)

Now  may I ask why men think that they own you once they buy you a drink or two? Or give you a few thousands of Ghana cedis or dollars  or pounds. Please  this phenomena  is becoming  increasingly  annoying.This man thought the next thing  that should be  happening after having a  drink is, we should be having sex.

A woman  seated at a table close to ours that same night was busy trying to  win a soul for christ  by convincing  a young woman who had admitted exchanging  sex for favours to change. I had stopped  listening to the one seated infront of me and was eavesdropping. It was the same story, men feeling  like  once they helped  a woman  out they had to be rewarded with sex.

No disrespect  to men because  I love men but this attitude  of men is getting  out of hand. A man is lending  you a hand and the next thing, he wants sex as payment.

A woman  seated at a table close to ours that same night was busy trying to  win a soul for christ  by convincing  a young woman who had admitted exchanging  sex for favours to change. I had stopped  listening to the one seated infront of me and was eavesdropping. It was the same story, men feeling  like  once they helped  a woman  out they had to be rewarded with sex.

Who says  I  can't  buy myself a drink? When you go to even have a drink alone, is when they think  you need sex. What is wrong with  our current  generation ? Can't  a woman  have some 'me' time anymore?

Unfortunately  I've met some nicely dressed ones, with good jobs who seem well-mannered  but on a  first interaction they are commanding sex out of you and want to make you feel guilty for not offering it to them. What is wrong with us?

I have stopped  responding  to  stupid. Yes,I read your text it sounds abusive or harassing I  ignore you if you are lucky. Look elsewhere .......having a woman  listen to all that madness is traumatising.

What gives a man the audacity  to think that once he has your phone number he can call or text to abuse you verbally  or  harass  you? Why should  men think that they must do women favours for sex? This madness  must stop. Some men are really painting 'men' black.

Same men pushing women  into prostitution  are  the same men calling them names. Yes, what would  you call a woman  who sleeps with every man  since you lots think every drink should end up in sex?

Dear young woman, your body is not for sale. Never! A man giving you a few cedis or buying you a drink doesn't  deserve  your body. You are fearfully  and wonderfully  made. No amount of money can buy you. Close your legs already unless that's  what you want, let no man make you feel like  you are obliged to give them your body. This nonsense  must stop!

Dear young woman, teach the men how to treat you by not responding  to this age old nonsense. Learn  to work for your  own cash and not depend on a man. Cease the day, wherever  you find  yourself, stop taking  the  abuse and harassment  from them.

Dear men,not every  woman wants to have sex with you. Not every  woman  wants a favour  so they can  pay back with sex. This madness  must stop. Stop abusing  women, stop harassing  women, women have a choice too!

My apologies  if this hit on men or sounded a bit harsh but women have a choice too. Remember I love men!