It's amazing how the pressure to really have a man intensifies during the yuletide season for a variety of reasons. These include; the mere fact that christmas is a time to spend quality time with loved ones and those who matter.
Lots of people plan their weddings for this same season. It's a season when cousins travel all the way from across the world back home to either exchange marriage vows with their supposed significant other or just take the first step to walking down the aisle.
This is a period where there are lots of shows in town and one would just feel the unnecessary desire or want to have a man to go to all those places with. So you see why 'a bronya boy' or christmas boy is some sort of a necessity? Show off, fun, name it.
So my friends were fond of talking about getting a boyfriend for Christmas. We just laughed and teased each other. Wondering if we could have them beyond the season and then we reminded ourselves that it was just for the season. Even those with stable boyfriends always wanted one: because he came with a new experience. We set out again on another quest for a Bronya Boy. Usually this Bronya boy would be an illusion.
Let me share with you a significant Christmas experience. It was getting to the yuletide season again but I kept postponing making plans for it because my first hurdle was to definitely finish off the semester, that meant focusing on writing and passing my exams. By the time exams was over, I barely had enough time to plan yet I was so bent on making good use of my vacation. So even before my final paper, I had made plans to attend the annual festival of lessons by Mtn.
That night, I met this young man I had seen a few times but had never really taken the time to look at nor talk to, to even get to know him properly. We talked, we laughed and yes yes we ended up going on a date to the beach. So fast huh? Yes I wasn't a believer in such trends until he changed my view.
That happened sooner than I had envisaged. It was fun; he was quite a good conversationalist and he could hold an intelligent conversation. The previous night, we had been on the phone, discussing everything so doing that in reality was just a confirmation of the fact that he could hold a good conversation.
I was attracted to him, well, he looked like he was too. Days on, we kept at it and my dream of getting 'a bronya boy' was gradually becoming a reality until five days to christmas when I had obviously analysed our friendship and had come to the awareness that we could not go beyond the present yet I was so attracted I decided to enjoy the moment. That meant , agenda Bronya boy was still on.
Everything was going well till Bronya boy told me how he didn't want a relationship due to his past relationship experience . Wasn't that supposed to hit me and send me running? Here I was having to deal with someone who sounded broken. I would have left honestly but by now, I was more into him as a person. Yes he was my Christmas crush, Bronya boy but he could pass for beyond the season because he made me laugh. He had this enigma to him I didn't want to let go off . This was going well but he was so broken to the point I was when I stalked my ex and discovered I was just a game to him because his real life was on Twitter.
It didn't take less than two years to recover. I went on casual dates but could never form an emotional bond with anyone. I became cold. Memories of the past caged and prevented me from having anything to do with the opposite sex. I didn't care who it was, I did not see why I had to agree to become someone's girlfriend when I couldn't give him my best.
Then Bronya boy came along and changed my whole perception. All of a sudden my tears and hurt were gone. I felt ready to date properly again. Yet here he was, at the point where I had been.
I could see him trying hard to disbelieve he had feelings for me. I could see him trying to deny that he fell for the girl he had told he didn't care about any girl in the world at all I could see him trying really hard to fight this. Instead of fleeing, I chose to stay because he was not only my Christmas crush, he was my perfect gift for a beautiful season. Yes he came with a baggage despite being funny, smart and sweet.
I will fly.
I will definitely fly if I had wings.
If I was a butterfly, I'll fly around his world.
If I was a bee, I'll sting him with some sweetness.
Yes I will.
Merry Christmas Dearies!
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