Even If It Takes Time....

So a few months ago, I decided to  cut my hair. First beginning with a perm cut and gradually, getting a lower cut (Like Men usually do). I remember how people held diverse views.  My Alice was the first to mention that I did not look pretty. Getting a lower cut had not been a part of the plan but situations compelled me to get it. If you are close to me, you probably know why. 

Over the months, I have watched my hair grow back slowly. I must admit that,  it is one of the worst mistakes I have ever made. At a point in time,  I regretted it. Gradually,  I have come to accept what cannot be changed.  I probably looked different but in the end its grown out of the short hair category.  I'm looking back and thinking getting a hair cut has taught me something. 

Sometimes in life, we decide to do something extraordinary and different from what we are known for. We make certain decisions, venture into new fields , do away with certain people, relocate to a new place, leave a particular job amongst others just to begin a new chapter.  Often, whilst on that new chapter, we look back on the past which looks  more appealing most of the time. It usually doesn't have the beauty of the one we leave behind. There comes a time when you are even tempted to go back.

This occurs in various areas of our lives; relationships, education,  employment etc. Today, I want to let you know that, the beginning of anything new is quite a task. Starting a new business isn't easy. Deciding to leave your relationship or relocate to a new place isn't easy. Yet, that is what you have to do to get where you are going. Damn the moments of regret and difficulty, you will pull through.  Just be patient. That is a virtue you cannot do without.

I have no idea what it you have set out to do but all I know is You can do this. No condition is permanent.  Keep going. Whatever it is you have set out to do, you can do it even if it takes time. You can't give up now, keep moving!

Friday Night....

Some hearts are bleeding and hurting tonight.
Some people cannot see a single star from where they stand but one thing is obvious, it is just a phase. Even if it takes time....With time, you will heal.
God comfort those who are mourning tonight and the entire weekend.
God comfort you like he did to Naomi when she lost her sons....Amen.!!

A Feeling Or Another Pose For The Cameras?

Lately the trend has been that people take photos with their significant other either helping them put on their shoes or depicting a particular act of love or care. How do you not kiss your wife every day but choose to kiss her just to take photos? It really doesn't make sense.

When people are attracted to each other or in love, it is natural to want to make your partner feel comfortable and do stuff for them so it doesn't matter where you are. Whether in public or in private, you can't help playing with your wife's hair or kissing her forehead. 

In our part of the world, you see a woman struggling to carry shopping bags whilst her man walks comfortably beside her. (So annoying).  A woman carries a baby at her back and still holds two bags yet her husband walks beside her gorgeously. (Most annoying part is they are both chatting. ..wow!)

Elsewhere, In the Western world,  the act of treating women like a lady comes with being a man. Things  such as  holding out the door is just another duty or responsibility as well as
pulling chairs for a woman to get seated, helping a woman hang her jacket amongst others. You can't imagine pulling out your own  chair to sit down whilst on a date with a guy (If you are not my man, good for you! )

In our part of the world,  you hardly see men kiss women in public. Not even a peck, random forehead, hand kisses or holding each other.( Eeeerrrrmmm well I get it...culture it is!!) Holding out the door, pulling the chair amongst others is considered such a task by some dudes in this part of the world.  (Some  do  though. Bless the dudes  who do.)

Now what's this taking photos doing the Pda just for the camera's? (Mostly newly weds).  Why would you want to do that? My man has got to help me wear my shoes every day or help carry the shopping bags all the time whilst I walk gorgeously like a queen beside him every time I go shopping and he's available. He must not do it just for show.
Caring and loving someone is something that needs to come naturally from within unless you are acting. You don't just pose for the cameras because that's what is currently trending. No! Feel it...act it!

My sister told me the story of an elderly woman who was entering a pharmacy after a young guy of about eighteen entered. She was mad at the young man for not opening and holding out the door for her. She told the young man that, his duties as a man included- holding out the door for a woman irrespective of their age.
I think Mothers should teach their boys from home because  those are everyday things and not necessarily a preserve for people who like each other. A lady's got to be treated like one any day. (Bless all mothers who have done such a good job with their boys... I doff my scarf to you!) I also think that more men in our part of the world should  carry out such acts and do the pda often not just for taking pictures.  Pda should be a way of life else don't do it at all. (How do you just show off in pictures? )  Well just my personal opinion.

If treating women like ladies is a part of you...then this piece is for you.  You know yourself!!

The Sun Will Shine Again

When the darkness lingers
and it seems to have lingered on longer
than you expect...
when there's a promise of sunshine
yet you never seem to see a ray of it..
When the pain becomes too much
your aches and hurt cannot be soothed or healed..
When the sun takes forever to rise
In that situation. ..
There lies a road
a road to freedom
a road to happiness
a road to a place of rest
a road to peace....
A caged bird will definitely break free one day...
In the hands of the enemies of man,
a man's strength is realized..
A quest that changes you..
Not now can you let your crown fall
What will happen?
The sun will shine again!!

This piece is for my siblings

         and

My sister from another Mum.
I still remember how you walked to me when I was sitting with Alice. You said you would be my friend.  I did not know that it was a promise of friendship that would last beyond ten years.
We bicker,
we cry
we laugh
we even stop talking for hours.
Of course you live in Panama.
You know one thing I desire for you right?
A good man to make you his wife.
Happy birthday my lala.

Sometimes......

Sometimes it takes an irreversible mistake to awaken you from your slumber.
Sometimes it takes a bad experience to appreciate good times
Sometimes it takes a little stupidity to realise you could have done better.

Sometimes you have to encounter ugly people to appreciate what you have
Sometimes you walk a mile before regretting that pebble you did not pick up at the start of your walk
Sometimes you've got to have regrets to learn......
It just happens sometimes.

Errrrrmmm someone tell me why people still go to movenpick lounge on Friday nights.  Makes no sense if all tables have been reserved but are empty yet people have to stand around. Well,  just thinking aloud.

Friday Night....
Drink some wine, spend time with your favourite people....
Enjoy your weekend!

Christian Brothers And Sisters!!

Everything that has a beginning does come to an end. It really doesn't matter what it is.  Day after day, christians strive to win souls for the Kingdom. Yes, one of the duties and responsibilities of a child of God is to propagate the gospel. We live life in awe of our creator and the fact that we won't live here on earth forever.

This is not my style but today, I want to touch on a very sensitive subject. I  have just noticed one thing about  certain christian brothers and sisters.  We all claim to be serving the same God but of course we do belong to different denominations and churches. Lately,  one is seen as an enemy once we do not belong to the same church or denomination.  Is this right in the sight of God? To the extent that men of God are fighting each other  and hating each other? The members are helping in the fight too. Of course if  your father detests a particular man of God it means you have to detest him too.

May I ask, aren't we all supposed to be serving the same God? Why the discrimination and division  at this time?

Some Christian brothers and sisters are doing a better job of scattering rather than gathering.  Some people will simply not go to church because of the so called attitude and behaviour of people who claim to be active in church. Too much gossip, too much backbiting,  too much discrimination, hypocrisy amongst others.  A Christian brother's attitude at home is different from his attitude at church. At church he's a saint. At home he's known as a really mean person. The same brother goes trying to win someone to church and he expects to achieve results? Really?

Some Christian brothers actually think they are better than others. Perhaps because they sing at church and the other just goes to listen to the word. Once they are church workers, they are better than the other who isn't. They act it, speak it and cease every single opportunity to make it known that they are better church brothers and sisters.  Please let me ask you, are you allowed to judge? Using the Bible as the standard for your life?

How can so called brothers and sisters ride in their cars to church or close from church and ride in their cars alone when others need a ride? Is that what the Bible intructs us to do? There are people in the church who need help yet there are people in the church who can offer them help but will never do it. What are we learning then?

These days, there's even discrimination inside the church.  A particular member is more dear to the church than another is. One brother is more important to the man of God than the other. Responses to members are based  on the level of the importance one attaches to the other. This is happening even in some churches?  Thought church was supposed to be a haven. Why should this be happening in the church?

My dear Christian brothers and sisters,  church is supposed to be a haven. Church is supposed to make people feel better.  Church is a place for repairing people.  Church is the place where people with no self worth go to acquire a sense of worth. Church is a place where the rejected can be accepted.  Can we stop with the hypocrisy or close down if we can't because then our purpose as Christians is being defeated. Win a soul and keep them,  don't win a soul only to drive them away. If you are a leader, be a father for all and do not discriminate. We are heirs of the Kingdom,  our role is to love one another. Let us make the impact of being Christian brothers and sisters be felt in a positive way. God bless all the Christian brothers and sisters who are doing it right. 

When They Go The Extra Mile.......

We live in times when we all need each other to carry us through to our destination. There's no one man in this world who would say they do not need anyone. We all need somebody. 

Most of the time, it counts to know someone because they facilitate things for us and make our lives easier.  A man cannot get married alone: he needs the presence of family and friends.  A man cannot hold a funeral alone: the presence of loved ones makes it easier to pull through the grieving period.  I doubt if there's any one man who has held a funeral alone. Even one man cannot carry the casket hence the need for pallbearers.

In business we need someone. In educational pursuits, someone can make a difference. In ill health,  you need someone.  Everyone  needs a helper at some point.  When we find help or that helper what do we do?

People are forced to always be at their best when they feel appreciated. Help should be followed by gratitude. Appreciation for the help received by the recipient.  Saying thank you is one of the simplest things in life but I just realized that showing appreciation and saying thank you is an art you need to acquire.

I have wondered countless times how people live their lives without mumbling a 'thank you.' I just discovered that mostly,  it is just missing in the vocabulary of people. You cannot force them to say it and nothing will cause them to say it. Even the Bible says to give thanks in all things. I think it is  crass behaviour not to say thank you.  When a girl agrees to go on a date with you and the date is over, a thank you won't spoil anything. When the waiter finally brings your order, a thank you won't change the fact  you are in charge of paying your own bills. When a guy holds out the door for you, it's just polite to say thank you.

I remember the story of a friend who after so much persuasion from a group of guys in her church, decided to play hostess to them by inviting them over for lunch. A few days on, she looked forward to hearing that phrase from them. Afterall,  she had put in so much  effort, time and energy to  cook the meal. When she was not getting it, she decided to report the guys to their father.  I laughed when I heard the story though I thought it was rather too extreme.

I think parents should inculcate into their children the habit of saying thank you at an early age. People should learn to use that phrase often irrespective of their status in society. It doesn't cost much to say it. You lose nothing if you say it. It is a polite thing to say and should be said in all situations even when you are the employer and they are the employee. Saying it often shows who you are. When you finally get that favour from someone, don't forget to say thank you.

In a world where people are busy yet they go the extra mile to do something for you, it is just polite to say thank you. It makes people want to do more for you. Next time someone goes out of their way to do something for you,  even if it's the most minute thing in the world, stop with the crass behaviour, learn and always remember to say thank you.  It really costs nothing to say.

So after blogging early on tonight,  obviously on the same topic,  in my attempt to achieve perfection, 'editing' I lost my write up  which had already been posted due to issues with my internet provider. Who else but 'mtn'
I had already shared the link and a few people had obviously read it before I lost it.
Obviously one of the challenges I face is that once I write, and I have to reproduce the same piece I completely forget what I wrote the first time.
So this is the best I could come up with though I almost dispaired. I hope it still gets my message across.

Again, its Friday night....
Have a drink with your favourite person,  talk gibberish and kiss like there's no tomorrow.
Enjoy your weekend! !

When They Go The Extra Mile.....

We live in times when we all need each other to carry us through to our destination. There's no one man in this world who would say they do not need anyone. We all need somebody. 

Most of the time, it counts to know someone because they facilitate things for us and make our lives easier.  A man cannot get married alone: he needs the presence of family and friends.  A man cannot hold a funeral alone: the presence of loved ones makes it easier to pull through the grieving period.  I doubt if there's any one man who has held a funeral alone. Even one man cannot carry the casket hence they need for pall bearers.

In business, we need someone. In educational pursuits, someone can make a difference. In ill health,  you need someone.  Everyone  needs a helper at some point.  When we find help or that helper what do we do?

People are forced to always be at their best when they feel appreciated. Help should be followed by gratitude. Gratitude for the help received by the recipient.  Saying thank you is one of the simplest things in life but I just realized that showing appreciation and saying thank you is an art you need to acquire.

I have wondered countless times how people live their lives without mumbling a 'thank you.' I just discovered that mostly,  it is just missing in the vocabulary of people. You can't force them to say it and nothing will cause them to say it. Even the Bible says to give thanks in all things. I think it is  crass behaviour not to say thank you.  When a girl agrees to go on a date with you and the date is over, a thank you won't spoil anything. When a guy holds out the door for you, its just nice to say a thank you.  When the waiter serves your order a thank you won't change the fact that you are paying your own bill.

It doesn't matter what you are getting out of someone,  thank you is just appropriate for all situations.  Don't pester someone so much for a favour only to get it and not show appreciation.  It doesn't matter your status in life, it is crass behaviour not to say that phrase. I remember the story of a friend who played hostess to a group of young men from church after several persuasions from them. She finally invited them to lunch. Days on, she waited for them to just say a simple thank you. Afterall she had put so much time, effort and energy into cooking the meal. She went the extra mile to cook them lunch and went the extra mile to report them to their Dad for not saying thank you. I found that a bit extreme though.

People should learn to say thank you.  It doesn't cost much. People should learn to use that phrase often, it takes nothing away from you. Parents should inculcate in their children the art of saying thank you.  It is just polite to say it. It makes a person want to do stuff for you always.  It tells people who you are.

The next time someone goes the extra mile for you, don't forget we live in a busy world where people  only make time to go the extra mile for you. Stop with the crass behaviour, remember to say thank you.  You lose nothing when you say it.

Buhari declares his assets, hehehehehe.

Busy week, finally its
Friday night...

Have a drink with your favourite person,  talk gibberish, forget the worries of the past days and kiss like there's no tomorrow.  Enjoy your weekend! !