I was trying to get money out of my purse to send someone on an errand when I touched a coin. I took it out and noticed it was a one cedi coin. I turned the other side and noticed both sides looked the same. I took a proper look and realized it did look the same but they were not the same. The coin had two sides....It brought to mind my days back in class four.
Today, I think it was a privilege to have been in class 4p. It was a class where you sat according to merit. A class where you could not afford to make mistakes because you were not only in competition with fifty three other people( yes we were fifty four pupils in my class at the time) but in competition with yourself. If you thought someone was writing cursive better than you,it was time to write cursive better than you did before.
If you thought someone's essay made it to the class notice board for other people and the parents to read during 'Meet the Parents' then it was time to write an essay that would get posted on the notice board too. You were always challenged to go higher as we were made to understand, there was always more room for improvement.
If they say I have a beautiful handwriting, I owe it to my class 4p and class 6s teacher: Mrs. Coker. If I seem tough to the critics, know that I learned to see two sides of the coin and not the side that suits me from an early age. Back then, we may not have considered them as constructive criticisms as Mrs. Coker seemed to have earned a doctorate in knowing how to make you feel shitty with her words if she had to. She was also excellent at making you feel good when you deserved it.
What's your reaction to the things you hear about yourself from people or words that are spoken to you? Are you sitting down, lamenting and drowning in sorrow because you are thinking people beat you down with words? Some people cannot choose a seat on the other side. Dwelling on the flaws and shortcomings of others does not only massage their ego but that is their only source of competition and inspiration (That has definitely got to be a topic for another day).
Who are you allowing to beat you down with words or push you to the limit? Do you know just like a coin has got two sides, there are always two sides of the story? Do you know you can choose to see the bottle as half full or almost empty? Which would you rather choose?
Your happiness does not lie in the hands of anyone. It's in your own hands and eyes. Stop letting other people who need validation by feeding off yours, control it.
Learn to look on the other side. It is called the other side of the coin. You choose or decide which side to view at a time. The emphasis here is not to ignore the side that will help straighten the creases. You have got to accept your imperfections to work at being perfect. Nonetheless, there's something you should be looking at: 'not letting the creases be ever so prominent even when the world says it is.'
Be mature enough to determine the ones which are constructive criticisms or just words meant to beat you down.
Confidence is key...look on the other side. Don't let the words stop you from looking: it's a coin!
I haven't blogged in a while
Life indeed gets busy......
